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Type 4
I'm the only one who feels this way and no one else can really understand.
Main theme
The Individualist (Riso/Hudson)
The Tragic-Romantic (Palmer)
The Artist
- Underlying theme is a feeling of loss, abandonment, and separation
- Deficiency feels caused by some unknown tragic flaw in the self
- Seeks meaning and emotional depth to acquire what feels missing
- Needs to connect personally to everything; chronically disappointed
Heart - Stress
Heart Point: 1, The Reformer
-When 4 goes to 1, they cultivate left-brained objectivity
-Sustain focus on something outside of themselves
-More down-to-earth, practical, disciplined & structured
-Channels creativity/emotionality to something concrete
-Has a heightened ability at healing and creative arts
Stress Point: 2, The Helper
-When 4 goes to 2, deny personal needs & over-accommodate
-Become overly dependent on someone to save them
-At the same time, becomes resentful of the rescuing other
-Feels needy; become manipulative to garner love/attention
-Tries to win others over; becomes more possessive of partner
Tips
How to get along with me...
- Validate my emotional reality and my pain
- Don't insinuate I’m crazy or unreasonable
- Give me space to process when I'm spiraling
- Don't brag or boast to me, I'll get jealous
- Never say, "Why can't you be more like..."
- Help me set aside time for my creativity
- Remind me what I do well; compliment me
- Tell me why I'm special to you, be specific
- Don't go into problem solving mode with me
- I don't want to do small talk, I want meaning
- Remind me to be kind and gentle to myself
- Take my intuitive sense of things seriously
- Tell me you’re here to stay, keep commitments
At Work:
- Assets - Relational, adaptable & creative
- Not driven by money, can think abstractly
- Keen eye for beauty; can have sudden insight
- Highly aware of human needs/relationships
- Able to be both empathic and analytical
- Prioritizes excellence & authentic expression
- Work is enhanced by search for value/meaning
- Challenges - Watch for unnecessary caretaking
- Be cautious with negative emotional reactions
- Find or create value in work that isn't ideal
- Take things less personally; be more pragmatic
- Balance over-involvement/withdrawal cycle
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